For many individuals and couples, the path to building a family begins with…
Feeling safe, stable, and connected may be harder these days. With everything constantly…
Have you ever felt overwhelmed and searched for ways to calm your emotions?…
Each day it might feel as though there’s something new to tolerate. The…
How can we be present and kind to ourselves in the new year?…
Do you notice yourself second-guessing most people? Is the lack of trust you…
Loving a trauma survivor may mean you also want to help them in…
As the world starts a new year, we start a new day — and every day is an opportunity for growth and change. Every day is a good day to take care of ourselves. You don’t have to start on January 1st with a New Year's Resolution, and you don’t have to wait until next year if you have already missed starting on the first. Give yourself permission to start taking care of yourself every day!
Wow, it’s December — how did we suddenly get here?
Perhaps by not noticing ourselves? By not slowing down to be present in the moments? Time seems to fly by even faster when we aren’t tuned into our own needs — and guess what? This is a common situation for trauma survivors.
"People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you make them feel." - Maya Angelou
Finding hope, let alone holding hope as a thread through life these days, can seem like a tough task for so many.
Do you always feel like you’re on high alert? Or do you just feel numb? Perhaps you bounce back and forth between the two? Have you wondered how to feel calm or peaceful?
If you find the state of the world today especially triggering, you are not alone! Fortunately, by understanding our nervous systems and trauma responses, we can also understand and adopt new ways of calming our nervous systems to achieve enhanced wellbeing.
I shouldn’t feel this way.
I should know better.
I should have learned my lesson.
I should be able to handle this by now.
I shouldn’t still be upset about this breakup/death/situation.
I would like to hereby eliminate the word "should" in statements like these. I’d like to remove the word "should" from the collective vocabulary of trauma survivors. I’d like to see most everyone else eliminate shoulds for that matter! These statements serve no positive purpose, they only attempt to criticize or hurt.